This document outlines the core distinctions, responsibilities, and practices for holding Emotional Healing Processes (EHPs) within the Connect Gameworld.
This is not a fixed method. The context in Connect is alive—formed through conversations and experiments. You’re not expected to follow rules. You are invited to take responsibility, stay present, and move from clarity.

🔹 𝐄𝐇𝐏𝐬 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐂𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐲
Before beginning an EHP, take 15 minutes—especially in someone's first EHPs—to scan the client's five bodies. Make sure the adult is present and that there is a conscious purpose to transform.
If the client says things like “I’m curious” or “I want to try it out,” this usually isn’t the part of them that is committed to change. These can be protective parts. Speak with them to see if another part is here with more commitment. If not, don’t proceed.

Dor:
“If they’re not there to transform—if they didn’t come to feel and shift something real—then I cannot do it for them. It would be a waste of both our time.”
 

🔹 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐇𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐬 𝐄𝐪𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲
Unlike modern culture therapy, where responsibility rests mainly on the therapist, in Connect the client carries as much responsibility as the space requires.
That includes presence, investment, preparation, and clarity.

✘ Out: Showing up late, distracted, tired, or half-present
✘ Out: Phone at 3%, risk of interruptions, whispering, animals walking in
✔ In: The client is prepared, present, and clear
✔ In: The client is emotionally stable and not dealing with clinical mental illness. This is not therapy. This is healing work that requires personal responsibility.

🔹 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐞𝐫
✘ Out: Giving advice—this breaks the context. The process is not about what you think.
✘ Out: Trying to make the EHP end the “right” way
✘ Out: Using the space to connect personally or open other topics
✘ Out: Talking after the process. The client is in a liquid state. Let them be.
✔ In: Sourcing from the space, your feelings, and clarity
✔ In: Closing the space with presence, then leaving them to integrate

🔹 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐂𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐃𝐨 𝐀𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞
You cannot hold a full EHP for yourself. When it gets intense, your Box and Shadow Guide will stop you. The spaceholder is trained to name the strategies and support you to keep going.

✔ In: Naming distractions (“You’re going to your head,” “Put your hands down”)
✔ In: Holding the edge instead of making it easier
✔ In: Giving permission to feel fully—crying, trembling, rage, collapse

Dor:
“The moment where the spaceholder speaks the one thing that brings you down to your feeling—this is something you cannot do for yourself. It’s not a technique. It’s sourcing.”

🔹 𝐍𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐞
A spaceholder is not an expert. They are not here to fix, explain, or lead. They source from the field, from their center, and from what the space shows.

✘ Out: Following a method or system
✔ In: Letting the space do the work
✔ In: Following impulses that arise from presence

🔹 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲
Ask for feedback after every EHP.
If the client didn’t go through transformation, ask what happened. Were they invested? Was the space clear? Did something block the flow?

✔ In: Feedback as a tool for evolution
✘ Out: Assuming the space went well just because it ended


🔹 𝐄𝐇𝐏 𝐈𝐬 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐚 𝐂𝐚𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐎𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫
✔ In: Offering EHPs to people who are committed
✘ Out: Saying yes to someone who just wants to try it
✔ In: Holding high standards for who you say yes to
✔ In: Owning your role as a spaceholder—not as a service provider, but as someone taking a stand in the world

EHP is not about entertainment, bonding, or performance. It’s a sacred act of initiation. If you're not holding it that way—stop.

🔹 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐋𝐚𝐲𝐞𝐫𝐬—𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐬
There are four kinds of healing that may happen before, during, or after an EHP:

🌿 Emotional Healing – the core EHP space
💧 Integration Healing – resting, drinking water, lying in the grass
🔥 Direct Healing – actions, choices, experiments that anchor change
💞 Connection Healing – being held physically or emotionally by others

✔ In: Preparing the client and letting them know what helps
✔ In: Giving them space afterward
✘ Out: Jumping back into conversation or daily life too soon

🔹 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐌𝐢𝐱𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐄𝐇𝐏𝐬
When you mix another method—like IFS, breathwork, or yoga—into an EHP, the space becomes unclear. Even if your intention is good, mixing splits the focus and weakens the process.

Dor:
“When I came to this work, I was coming from years of yoga. I kept trying to bring it in. My Box said: If I let go of this, I’ll have to start over. That was terrifying. My Shadow Guide stepped in and said, ‘They don’t get it. I’ll do it my way.’ I spent two years trying to mix. Only when I let it go did I feel what the EHP space could really do.”

✔ In: Hold 80 clean EHPs. No additions. No side tools. Just the space, the client, and what is alive between you. That’s enough.

Dor:
“Most people don’t feel the full magic of EHPs because something is missing in their spaceholding. The context isn’t clear. The client isn’t invested. Strategies go unnamed. Instead of adjusting these, they add something new. But if the core isn’t working, mixing won’t fix it. It pulls you away from where the clarity could come from.”

Once you’ve sourced the clarity of EHPs and still notice something missing, you can open a new space to experiment.

✔ In: Name clearly that you are experimenting
✔ In: Declare what you're up to in a group space, in a public tribe space, before you go
✔ In: Let others in the team see where it comes from
✔ In: Be transparent with the client and team
✔ In: Ask for feedback after
✔ In: Be ready to hear responses to what you did
✘ Out: Calling it an EHP when it’s not

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