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📘 Space Holders Context: Emotional Healing Processes in Connect

𝐄𝐌𝐎𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋 𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐂𝐄𝐒𝐒𝐄𝐒 (𝐄𝐇𝐏𝐬) – 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐗𝐓 𝐈𝐍 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐍𝐄𝐂𝐓

This document outlines the core distinctions, responsibilities, and practices for holding Emotional Healing Processes (EHPs) within the Connect Gameworld.

This is not a fixed method. The context in Connect is alive—formed through conversations and experiments. You’re not expected to follow rules. You are invited to take responsibility, stay present, and move from clarity.

𝐄𝐇𝐏𝐬 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐍𝐒𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐌𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍, 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐂𝐔𝐑𝐈𝐎𝐒𝐈𝐓𝐘

Before beginning an EHP, take 15 minutes—especially in someone's first EHPs—to scan the client's five bodies. Make sure the adult is present and that there is a conscious purpose to transform.

If the client says things like “I’m curious” or “I want to try it out,” this usually isn’t the part of them that is committed to change. These can be protective parts. Speak with them to see if another part is here with more commitment. If not, don’t proceed.

𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐓 𝐇𝐎𝐋𝐃𝐒 𝐄𝐐𝐔𝐀𝐋 𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐏𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐈𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐘

Unlike modern culture therapy, where responsibility rests mainly on the therapist, in Connect the client carries as much responsibility as the space requires.

That includes presence, investment, preparation, and clarity.

✘ Out: Showing up late, distracted, tired, or half-present
✘ Out: Phone at 3%, risk of interruptions, whispering, animals walking in
✔ In: The client is prepared, present, and clear
✔ In: The client is emotionally stable and not dealing with clinical mental illness. This is not therapy. This is healing work that requires personal responsibility.

𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐑𝐎𝐋𝐄 𝐎𝐅 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐏𝐀𝐂𝐄𝐇𝐎𝐋𝐃𝐄𝐑

✘ Out: Giving advice—this breaks the context. The process is not about what you think.
✘ Out: Trying to make the EHP end the “right” way
✘ Out: Using the space to connect personally or open other topics
✘ Out: Talking after the process. The client is in a liquid state. Let them be.

✔ In: Sourcing from the space, your feelings, and clarity
✔ In: Closing the space with presence, then leaving them to integrate

𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐏𝐀𝐂𝐄𝐇𝐎𝐋𝐃𝐄𝐑 𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐕𝐈𝐃𝐄𝐒 𝐓𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐓 𝐂𝐀𝐍𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐃𝐎 𝐀𝐋𝐎𝐍𝐄

You cannot hold a full EHP for yourself. When it gets intense, your Box and Shadow Guide will stop you. The spaceholder is trained to name the strategies and support you to keep going.

✔ In: Naming distractions (“You’re going to your head,” “Put your hands down”)
✔ In: Holding the edge instead of making it easier
✔ In: Giving permission to feel fully—crying, trembling, rage, collapse

𝐍𝐀𝐕𝐈𝐆𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐅𝐑𝐎𝐌 𝐒𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐂𝐈𝐍𝐆, 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐄𝐗𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐓𝐈𝐒𝐄

A spaceholder is not an expert. They are not here to fix, explain, or lead. They source from the field, from their center, and from what the space shows.

✘ Out: Following a method or system
✔ In: Letting the space do the work
✔ In: Following impulses that arise from presence

𝐅𝐄𝐄𝐃𝐁𝐀𝐂𝐊 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐆𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐘

Ask for feedback after every EHP.

If the client didn’t go through transformation, ask what happened. Were they invested? Was the space clear? Did something block the flow?

✔ In: Feedback as a tool for evolution
✘ Out: Assuming the space went well just because it ended

𝐄𝐇𝐏 𝐈𝐒 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐀 𝐂𝐀𝐒𝐔𝐀𝐋 𝐎𝐅𝐅𝐄𝐑

✔ In: Offering EHPs to people who are committed
✘ Out: Saying yes to someone who just wants to try it
✔ In: Holding high standards for who you say yes to
✔ In: Owning your role as a spaceholder—not as a service provider, but as someone taking a stand in the world

EHP is not about entertainment, bonding, or performance. It’s a sacred act of initiation. If you're not holding it that way—stop.

𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐍𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝐋𝐀𝐘𝐄𝐑𝐒—𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐌𝐒

There are four kinds of healing that may happen before, during, or after an EHP:

🌿 Emotional Healing – the core EHP space
💧 Integration Healing – resting, drinking water, lying in the grass
🔥 Direct Healing – actions, choices, experiments that anchor change
💞 Connection Healing – being held physically or emotionally by others

✔ In: Preparing the client and letting them know what helps
✔ In: Giving them space afterward
✘ Out: Jumping back into conversation or daily life too soon

𝐀𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐌𝐈𝐗𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐗𝐓 𝐈𝐍 𝐄𝐇𝐏𝐬

When you mix another method—like IFS, breathwork, or yoga—into an EHP, the space becomes unclear. Even if your intention is good, mixing splits the focus and weakens the process.

✔ In: Hold 80 clean EHPs. No additions. No side tools. Just the space, the client, and what is alive between you. That’s enough.

Once you’ve sourced the clarity of EHPs and still notice something missing, you can open a new space to experiment.

✔ In: Name clearly that you are experimenting
✔ In: Declare what you're up to in a group space, in a public tribe space, before you go
✔ In: Let others in the team see where it comes from
✔ In: Be transparent with the client and team
✔ In: Ask for feedback after
✔ In: Be ready to hear responses to what you did
✘ Out: Calling it an EHP when it’s not

Enjoy your Healing ! 

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