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4 feelings for connection

We each have 4 core feelings. Like the primary colors, they comprise all other emotions and feelings. You can use your feelings to navigate your life to a place where your heart feels at home.
 

In every moment, with every heartbeat, your feelings are there with you. If you learn to notice them, become aware of their special flavors, colors, rhythms, and energies, and use them, you will become the master of your emotional body and, therefore, a great life navigator.

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What are the 4 feelings ? 
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aNGER

Anger can be 𝐬𝐨𝐟𝐭, 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠, and brightening as the light of day. Or 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐞, 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥, and effective as you wish.

Anger can be a 𝐜𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐩𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐮𝐞𝐥 you use to rocket launch the life you choose and take a stand for.

Using Anger consciously and purposefully will get you:

∞ Centered, grounded, and energetically protected in any situation.

∞ Saying a clear YES! and NO!

∞ Set boundaries powerfully.

∞ Clear on what you want, care about, and choose as an adult.

∞ Clear on what the person in front of you is up to.

∞ Navigating intimacy in relating like a pro.

∞ Hold space for extraordinary spaces.

∞ Start, stop, move, change your mind.

∞ Commit to your commitments and your teammates.

∞ Aware when you take other people's emotions as yours.

∞ Heal stuck emotions from the past.

∞ Create what you are here to create.

∞ And much more.

Working in a team with unique exercises will serve as an initiation not only to transform your relationship with your Anger but to access all of your feelings consciously as navigation tools for your life.
 

𝑴𝒐𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒏 𝒄𝒖𝒍𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑜𝑜𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑓𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑛𝑒𝑔𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑟 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑒𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦. 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒𝑑 𝑢𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑢𝑝𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠, 𝑖𝑔𝑛𝑜𝑟𝑒, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑛𝑢𝑚𝑏 𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑟 𝑠𝑜 𝑚𝑢𝑐ℎ 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑣𝑒𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑒'𝑟𝑒 "𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑛 𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑟𝑦 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛." 𝑂𝑟 𝑚𝑎𝑦𝑏𝑒 𝑤𝑒 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑙𝑜𝑑𝑒 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦 𝑜𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑖𝑛 𝑎 𝑤ℎ𝑖𝑙𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 "𝑐𝑎𝑛'𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑡𝑟𝑜𝑙 𝑖𝑡."

𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑖𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 "𝑟𝑒𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔" 𝐴𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑟, 𝑡𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑙𝑜𝑤 𝑖𝑡 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑛 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑟𝑡 𝑜𝑟 𝑙𝑜𝑛𝑔 𝑏𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡ℎ𝑠, 𝑜𝑟 𝑝𝑢𝑛𝑐ℎ 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑝𝑢𝑛𝑐ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑏𝑎𝑔.
 

It's about growing into it and learning to 𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐭 as the 𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐥, 𝐧𝐞𝐮𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐥, 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐞, 𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐭 source of emotional energy that has been accompanying us from birth, and RAGE with it!

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Fear

We all experience fear, no matter where you come from, where you grew up, or where your life journey has taken you. Fear is part of the game of life, yet hardly any of us know how to use it. If we only knew how to use fear as a source of information and wisdom, it would empower us with superpower-like senses for navigating even the toughest turns in life.
 

As we grew up in modern society, we were taught that fear is the worst feeling ever. “Fear stops you from getting to where you want to be,” “Fear means you are a coward” (not a brave warrior), and whenever you feel it, you need to:

“Get rid of the fear, overcome the fear, fight the fear, have no fear, become fearless, conquer the fear,” etc.
 

Just watch every action/kid/fantasy movie, and the final message of the hero is a generic quote about fear not serving you in any way:

“You have to let it all go, Neo. Fear... doubt and disbelief…” (The Matrix - Morpheus to Neo)
 

Gosh, I'm scared to say this, but what if fear has a different role than we were taught in society? What if fear can show us the way? Like octopus arms navigating in the dark… No, no, no, this is too scary to think of. But what if…

JOy

The relentless pursuit of happiness stems from the notion that joy is the ultimate emotion we should constantly strive for. It’s like trying to eat only sweets all the time; even after devouring all the donuts in the world (apologies for the inevitable rhyme), we find ourselves stuck in this endless quest. We've already understood happiness.

The reason it eludes us after countless attempts is that conscious joy cannot exist without conscious anger; otherwise, it slips away, unnoticed and non-transformative. Conscious joy is not the fleeting happiness of a child at an amusement park but a deeper, more lasting feeling.
 

We need to recognize that joy, in its purest form, is just one of many emotions that guide us through life. This conscious joy arises not by ignoring negative emotions but by embracing and understanding them.

When happiness comes, it often brings other past emotions with it, creating a complex mix. We try to numb these other feelings to experience only joy, but that doesn't work. Conscious joy requires acknowledging these mixed emotions and holding space for them.

This conscious approach allows joy to be independent and transformative.
 

When we consciously hold space for joy, it can thrive even in simple moments, like feeling the breeze on a scooter ride to the beach. Conscious joy is not about winning against others, the mind, or "negative emotions."

It’s about integrating joy as one of the guiding emotions in our lives. By recognizing and separating these emotions, we allow each to serve us with its unique magic, making joy a constant, accessible part of our emotional landscape.

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Sadness

Sadness is the feeling in charge of connection, connecting with other people and with my different parts.

Without sadness, I cannot be vulnerable, authentic, and soft.

Without sadness, I would not accept the different identities I have: my child, my parent, my shadow world. I would not connect to the world, see the sorrow, the hardship, and the suffering of humanity, and attempt to do something about it.

What people call compassion is really just conscious sadness.

Sadness can unconsciously turn into victimhood, a "poor me" mentality, feeling there is nothing to do about the situation. It is often mixed with other emotions, creating depression and helplessness.

It's actually a superpower, allowing us to let go by mourning and grieving lost possibilities and connections. It helps to appreciate what I have.

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